If someone were to suggest wearing a “more modest” outfit or to simply, “cover up a little” – and you’re like me – it might feel offensive. ‘Who are they to tell me what to do? Doesn’t modesty take away my freedom? God created us to love who we are, so why can’t we show off a little? My body is beautiful; I should be able to do what I want with it, why should I listen to these “radical” Christian leaders who tell me otherwise?’
You, my brothers and sisters, were called to be free. But do not use your freedom to indulge the flesh; rather, serve one another humbly in love.” ~Galatians 5:13
Oh sweet friend, I hear you. I was you. But I want to share some truth that will shatter those misconceived ideas and that slightly awkward bitterness you have when you hear the word “modesty.”
No, God isn’t calling you to a life of shame. The Beauty of Modesty isn’t about covering up because you are ashamed of your body, it’s about value. It’s about loving your body and yourself because you were created in his image to be loved fully by God and your husband alone
So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them.” ~Genesis 1:27
The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife.” ~1 Corinthians 7:4
No, God isn’t calling you to stop everyone and their brother from sinning. You aren’t responsible for someone else’s sin. However, you ARE called to value the hearts of your brothers and sisters.
Be careful, however, that the exercise of your rights does not become a stumbling block to the weak.” ~1 Corinthians 8:9
No, you aren’t called to hide from the camera and hide from feeling beautiful just because you are worried about someone comparing themselves to you. You are called to be real, to be loving, and to be transparent in your heart motives.
We put no stumbling block in anyone’s path, so that our ministry will not be discredited.”
~2 Corinthians 6:3
Modesty is about your heart. Modesty is about value.
“Fear not, therefore; you are of more value than many sparrows.” ~Matthew 10:31
“I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well.” ~Psalm 139:14
“Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies.” ~1 Corinthians 6:19-20
Modesty is about setting an example for all those beautiful young girls trying to figure out how to get attention. What kind of message are we sending to these little souls if we say it’s okay to show off on social media to get attention from boys? That message sends her into a spiral leading to heartbreak.
“But whoever causes one of these little ones who believe in me to sin, it would be better for him to have a great millstone fastened around his neck and to be drowned in the depth of the sea. ~Matthew 18:6-7
It tells her that her value is on how much she shows off and who responds. It tells her that her value comes only from the attention from the world.
Modesty says her value is SO much more. Her value is in her soul, created to be a vessel of the Holy Spirit. Modesty isn’t about losing yourself; it’s about loving yourself.
So I want to hear from you. What does modesty mean to you? Why should it be important? Do you feel valued by it? Do you feel torn by feminism and God’s word? Comment with your thoughts, I want to hear your struggles, and though I don’t have all the answers, I’m here to help you find them.
Don’t take my word for it! Check out more sources on Biblically sound pieces about modesty:
- Biblical Definition of Modesty from covenanteyes.com
- Why Modesty is Worth It by Phylicia Masonheimer
- 5 Myths About Modesty by Phylicia Masonheimer
- Hello Modesty (she has a fun Instagram too offering fashionably modest ideas!)