Sometimes, we find ourselves in a season of alone-ness & lonely is an ever-present fear. That fear of lonely lurks coming home to no one when our friends are busy with their S.O or spouse. Well, allow me to offer some perspective… God has spoken promises to you that no one can take away, being alone is a season of God holding you in a cocoon before you burst out a butterfly. Let yourself be alone, BASK in the alone-ness and learn to establish yourself and create the life YOU want. After all, if you don’t know how to be by yourself – what are you going to do with someone else?
I’m about to move into an apartment ALONE. Recently, I felt my flesh wanting to feel terrified of living alone – of not having my sister & BFF there to giggle or watch Friends with… My flesh wants to throw a pity party, until I realized that I have the power to reject fear.
Help me trust the journey you have for me. Engulf me in the peace and warmth of your presence – so I never have the option to feel lonely. Surround my thoughts with joy through the beautiful gift of your Holy Spirit. Direct my steps in the direction you want to send me, open doors of opportunity to carry out the very purposes you have for me. I long to remain in your presence at all times & in all things. You are my foundation, be my only source. When this world tries to distract, pull my heart back into you. Be my first and greatest love.”
Don’t think for a second that our fears are news to God. He is orchestrating it all. God gives us what we need when we need it. When we’re done learning the lesson He wants us to learn, He will lovingly take it away. Sometimes letting go of a season (a relationship, a career, etc) is hard – OH SO hard. Sometimes we feel in the depths of our soul that parting with a season is a good thing – but sometimes we have no idea why a season goes – when it was so good in the first place. But we have to remember that just as an artist doesn’t waste a stroke, God doesn’t waste any season or any heart break.
Seasons of Fear:
Seasons are seasons… All that matters is how we handle the ups and downs. Because in every season, God wants to be our anchor. In every storm, our loving Father is orchestrating the waves. He will not give us more than we can handle, and when it seems like it’s too much, He wants to be our refuge.
Fear can erode our faith. Keeping your eyes on the crisis keeps them off of God. Fear doesn’t like to share space with peace… But when faith increases, fear decreases. Fear affects your willingness to follow. Fear expels peace. It can become too powerful if we allow it. So ask yourself,
“Am I going to operate my life and mind in a manner of worry and fear OR choose to live toward faith?”
“Then he got into the boat and his disciples followed him. Suddenly a furious storm came upon the lake, so that the waves swept over the boat. But Jesus was sleeping. The disciples went and woke him, saying, “Lord, save us! We’re going to drown! He replied, “You of little faith, why are you so afraid?”
Now let me stop there, this is not an angry rebuke from God… This is a deeply loving tone in genuinely asking why his disciples were so afraid – Jesus had enough confidence in the disciples that He figured they’d have faith over fear. After all, He’s right there with them in the boat…
“Then he got up and rebuked the winds and the waves, and it was completely calm. The men were amazed and asked, “What kind of man is this? Even the winds and the waves obey him!”
Did you catch it???
Because too often we miss it. One of the most important parts…
Jesus spoke to the disciples first, THEN He spoke to the storm. When we’re in a situation like that we ask, “please stop this, change this, heal this…” Sometimes He does but sometimes, He doesn’t. Sometimes there’s a crucial spiritual cornerstone He has to bring us to so that we become closer to Him.
No matter if he does or doesn’t calm those storms around us, He WILL calm the storm within us.
Peace comes when you realize that Jesus is in the boat with you.
Christ was alone being beaten and crowned with thorns-Christ was alone in the desert for 40 days & nights.
Do you think that he ever, for one second, let “lonely” stop him? No.
P.S. We share His power, because where we are weak – He makes us strong. In him, we are more than conquerors.
Give each other (and us!) some advice in the comments – how do YOU handle those lonely feelings when they start to creep about?