This one’s for the girls who care deeply. Who have a great sense of responsibility & empathy. Who work themselves to the bone. Who LOVE to be liked.
All too often, life feels like a dizzy balancing act… We aim to achieve, we get caught up in our accomplishments & then before we know it – that’s our identity. But what happens when our focus is pulled from our source? We will become distressed & miserable – anxious and alone. Left wondering why we’re so alone and purposeless.
As followers of Christ, we are called to a life of many good things. But, there are some not-so-obvious things God didn’t call you to:
1: He didn’t call you to work yourself so hard to the point of burning out
Whether it’s your work ethic, health, passions, or your desires… Making yourself bone-tired pursuing perfection is a useless tactic. Maybe you didn’t eat like you should this weekend & feel the need to feel guilty to maintain your regimen. Newsflash: your mind & body need rest & a cupcake here & there is GOOD for the soul (#Balance)
It’s not a full life living for other people – constantly seeking the approval of a boss, friends, family, or even yourself. As a recovering perfectionist, I’m my own worst critic…
The good news is, nowhere in the Bible does it say “Work so God will love you, work harder so God will love you more, or you’re a BAD Person if you say “no” to something you know you shouldn’t take on.” Let your yes’s be yes’s and your no’s be no’s. It’s OKAY to say no because you have to take care of YOU first.
Cause guess what God did on the 7th day, folks. He rested.
“By the seventh day God completed His work which He had done, and He rested on the seventh day from all His work which He had done. Then God blessed the seventh day and sanctified it, because in it He rested from all His work which God had created and made.”
2: He didn’t call you to know all things or make everyone happy
As one of my favorite quotes says, “You can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world and you’re still going to find someone who hates peaches.” There’s also nowhere in the Bible that it is written to know all and please all (this is the reason that Adam & Eve were banished from the Garden of Eden… trying to know all & eat the fruit from the tree of the knowledge of good & evil). We are called to be salt and light, and sometimes that means evoking conviction in others and others calling us out on ours. If you struggle with this, I feel you. Everyone wants to be liked. But sometimes God has a different & just as helpful agenda, and He will use all things for our good.
The best advice my mom gave me was to make the problems less personal. When you personalize the problem, it makes the problem way harder to deal with because you are always getting your feelings hurt. Feelings are totally awesome and designed by God, but they have their place too. And sometimes it isn’t in the problem-solving strategy.
Besides, it shouldn’t matter if you’re liked ornot when your identity is rooted in God, not in this world.
3: He didn’t call you to a life of unhappiness
I’m not talking about just a bad day or a bad week, but a repeated feeling of unhappiness. Feeling tired and run down all the time, or living life void of joy.
I was living that life. And I knew there had to be something better.
For a while, I didn’t see what God was trying to teach me in my anxiety – HOW could it be part of His will for my life. Until one day I realized that my joy was rooted in this world, NOT in Him. In God, joy is not dependent on our circumstances, it’s rooted in His very being… So in all things we CAN choose joy! In our weakness He is strong.
“For I know the plans I have for you,’ declares the Lord, ‘plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future” ~Jeremiah 29:11
God doesn’t just imply this… God declares this over your life. He knows all, sees all, and works in all things. He never tires and He won’t give up on us.
God calls us to have life, and have it more abundantly. (John 10:10) He calls us to shout praise, and be joyful, where the source of our joy is Him. That’s the life He called you to.
So I call you to live an abundant life today. Remember the life you were called to, and the life you were not. Be prepared to face the giants the day will bring, confident in your abilities, your limitations, and His great love for you.
Good athletes and great athletes are separated by one thing… The amount of rest they allow themselves. Spoiler: GREAT athletes allow themselves more rest.
The USA works more hours than any other country – and also more afflicted with anxiety and depression than any other country.
P.S. Resting is Doing Something
When we allow ourselves a day, weekend, or few days to really make getting rest a priority, our brains are WAYYYY more productive than they would be if we “powered through.”
Accept the fact that you need rest from time to time. That means accepting who you are when the world tells you lies that are tempting to believe. When every fear or doubt comes into your mind, ask God if it’s from Him. God has already promised us a joy-filled life, not rooted in earthly circumstances but rooted in Him. God has already promised us a greater love than we will ever know – or watch in the best movies. God has already given Himself for us, proclaimed that He is jealous-in-love for us, so let your spirit rest. The King of Kings & Lord of Lord’s has said you’re worth it.
He just wants you to follow Him.